lookPositive

lookPositive is a new organisation offering services to educational bodies to combat the negativity present in young people, teaching them the skills to be able to accept themselves the way they are; filling their life with a more positive attitude.

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A really  key part of learning to love yourself, is not as many people would believe, the complete abolishment of negative thoughts, but instead learning how to deal with them when they come. The journey of learning to accept and embrace your body starts with the decision to try, and ends with complete self love, wellness and happiness, but it’s not a simple step to go from one to the other, and it’s unrealistic to expect years of negative self talk to just disappear straight away. Even when you achieve a complete state of acceptance with your body, you will still have those days where it’s harder to keep believing it.

Which is why it’s so important to know how to fight back against that negative voice in your head. Everyone, no matter what their shape or size, no matter whether they fit into the media’s idea of beautiful or not, tends to have times where what they see in the mirror does not meet their expectations. And when that happens, how many of us are guilty of sending a torrent of abuse at that offending body part?

For me, it always used to be my legs and my arms that got the hate - I’d look at them and feel sick, seeing how they betrayed me, splurging out in all directions, wobbling when I walked, and occupying far too much space. Of course it was never really like that, and there was never anything wrong with my legs- but when you hate everything about the way you look*, it’s easy to completely lose a sense of proportion about your body. I’d look down at my self, and all these words would just instantly spring into my head: image

Negative self talk - would you say these things to a friend?

But here’s the thing - we have positive and negative associations with various words, and it’s those associations which make us feel bad about them. For example the word ‘fat’ seems to be everyone’s go to word when they want to criticise their appearance, and it’s almost seen as an offensive word. But people forget that fat is actually something integral to our health and survival, keeping us warm and storing energy - and without it we would die. Now to me, that’s a positive thing, and when I think of it like that, having fat in my legs doesn’t seem like quite such a bad thing. You don’t necessarily have to change what you’re seeing, but change the way you think about it.

And that goes for every thing you say about yourself. Every time you look at yourself and say something mean, become aware that you’re doing it, and start thinking of alternative ways you could consider your body. There is always a positive way of spinning anything!

Example:

“My stomach is flabby and chubby” → “My stomach is soft, cuddly and helps keep me warm”

“My bum/stomach/legs/arms are too big” → “My shape is unique, exciting, and there’s no reason it should look like everyone else’s.”

“I’m too bony” →”My body has beautiful, defined lines”

“I have a large nose” →”My nose lets me smell more amazing scents”

I really believe there is nothing you are able to spin in a more positive way, it just takes practise and a little effort - to not be willing to stand for your own self hatred any more. Taking this attitude enabled me to turn looking down and seeing my legs, and associating it with nothing but negativity, to be able to look down and see this:

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So next time you look at your body, and you start hearing yourself talk negatively, say to that voice in your head: “NO, I’m not going to stand for this anymore!”, and start thinking of ways you can find positives in every part of your body.

Love yourself today!

*Especially if you have an eating disorder, it’s quite likely that you will have a very distorted picture of what you’re seeing. If you’re having issues with very distorted body image, it’s a good idea to talk to your doctor, as it could be a symptom of an eating disorder or body dysmorphic disorder, which it’s important to seek professional help for.

Body positivity is so important - it helps us love and respect ourselves for who we are, shows us that we don’t need to change, and gives us the resilience to combat any negativity which comes into our lives. I really noticed it myself when body positivity gave me the tools to recover from 5 years of mental illness, something which had previously seemed impossible.

While a lot of us know that it’s important to love ourselves, in practice every day for some people that can be quite difficult. While our workshops go a long way towards teaching people to accept their bodies the way they are, I very much recognise that not everyone is in the position to attend one, or would even feel comfortable doing so to begin with. Body positivity is a journey, and for a lot of people, that starts on their own, quietly beginning to learn that loving your body is okay - and could actually be the start of something beautiful.

And to that end, I decided to take all my knowledge and experience of body positivity, and create something that would enable people to learn to love their bodies and help them through the days where positivity feels the most difficult. 101 Ways to Love Your Body is a new book, A6 size and jam packed full of tips and tricks to help people embrace and accept their bodies just as they are. It doesn’t matter where you are on your journey to accepting your body, there’s something in here for everyone.

The book is great value, just £7.50 for a guide which could help you stay happy everyday. Want to buy it? All you have to do is go to our website http://www.lookpositive.co.uk/shop/ place an order and we’ll sent it straight to you!

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I hope lots of you will take advantage of this, because we’re here to help everyone learn to love themselves. Stay positive!

gardenofroses24:

I look into the mirror every time I walk past one, or near one. I poke and pull, pinch and feel. I obsess. It’s not because I like what I see, it’s not because I enjoy these moments, of staring back at this creature. It’s because I don’t.

I’m twenty-one, and I thought this would have ended by…

higherthenmountians:

I found this extremely moving. It is not only young girls and teenagers fighting with body image; the media posts unrealistic pictures of every age and sex. Everyone is struggling to fight off pressure to fit in and measure up, we are all being targeted. I found this woman’s project to be very refreshing. Lets all fight against unrealistic expectations together!

zahiraschmidt:

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myesoul:

(sleep wake hope and then)

myesoul:

(sleep wake hope and then)

yomama126:

Love your body….